You’re thinking, yeah right, learning how to deal with a breakup can never be as easy as following three simple steps…it can’t be!…or, can it?
When a romantic relationship ends people react in a number of different ways depending upon how intense or casual their relationship was with their ex.
For instance, you might be missing your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend so much so that every day is sheer and utter purgatory, you’re brokenhearted as you read their trust message or love letters. Or, on the other hand, you may be so angry that they broke up with you that you start questioning what you ever saw in them in the first place and why or how your ex could treat you this way!
However, depending on the way you view it, the good or bad news is that more than likely you’ll endure the pain of a whole variety of emotions in a single day after a relationship breakup. And, how you cope with these unpleasant situations is greatly influenced by a number of factors that vary from one relationship to another.
Perhaps it’s the first break up you’ve ever had or maybe breaking up with your love interests is becoming far too frequent and you’re looking for some answers. Whatever your situation may be, knowing how to cope with a relationship ending is something you really want to conquer.
I won’t fill you full of false hope, learning how to deal with a break up is never easy, it takes some effort on your part, but there are 3 simple and straightforward things you can do that may help ease the pain.
You may have heard the age-old saying, “Laughter is the best medicine“. Well, it’s true! By distracting yourself with humor, seeing the funny side of things, and not taking yourself or life too seriously, can make you feel a whole lot better.
Now, I’m not saying that laughing out loud will enable you to escape the sadness, hurt, and anger you might be feeling right after your breakup. As a matter of fact, many relationship experts believe and emphasize that you shouldn’t try to avoid these emotions. Feel it and just let it happen. But, they also insist that you shouldn’t let this state of unhappiness go on too long.
Once you’ve shed a few tears or spent a couple of days moping around the house, it’s time to stop dwelling on yourself and the breakup situation. Go hire some funny movies or go see a show at a local comedy house. Mix with friends who make you laugh. Have fun! It will make you feel better and start the healing process by helping you push your pain into the background.
Do something you couldn’t do, or haven’t done while you were involved in the relationship with your ex. Maybe your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend didn’t enjoy a certain kind of food or even dining out. Perhaps they didn’t share the same taste in movies or going to museums, art shows, sports’ meets, or watching Nascar. Now, it’s your chance to get back in touch with things you really loved doing.
Get involved in activities that you couldn’t do in the relationship that’s just ended. You’ll be surprised at how liberated you’ll feel once you rediscover the things you truly enjoy!
Stop thinking about relationships, boyfriends, girlfriends…period! Many people who have just gone through a relationship bust-up, for some inexplicable reason, want to jump right back into a new commitment thinking it will help them get over the old relationship…Have you heard about rebound relationships?
You really need to make an effort to try not to fall into this trap. Remind yourself that there’s plenty of time and opportunity to develop relationships later on down the track. You don’t have to rush straight ‘from the frying pan into the fire’ if you know what I mean. Make yourself the #1 priority in your life!
Think about your goals. Look at this time, after your break up, as an opportunity instead of a setback. What’s important to you? Decide to do something you’re passionate about, and just do it! Now that you have time to focus on yourself, do something that makes you happy, and be a little self-centered for a change and work toward something you really want.