Who Should Pay for the First Date?

In the grand history of dating, the idea of who pays is a relatively recent occurrence. Traditionally, it was a man’s duty to provide for the woman completely. This means that he would pay for everything not only on the first date, but on all subsequent dates. Now, this system had more to do with society being male dominated. Women were not given equal rights, and therefore men were traditionally the only ones with jobs (as society would not allow women to work). In those times, it made sense that men would pay for everything as women (usually) would not have been able to afford the date.

However, with the arrival of the women’s rights movement, women were gradually given equal rights and subsequently the ability to become employed. Presently, most women work and therefore have access to enough money to contribute on a date.

This indeed is a step in the right direction as it is usually a man who pays for all the bills during a date and this change will truly reflect equality between both sexes and also break the existing stereotype of women being demure and docile in nature and continuously dominated by a patriarchal society without the rights to make decisions on their own, a step that cannot be found in the okcupid app that has become the youth’s latest fancy to try their luck with girls.

Now, even today, some people will still claim that a man should pay for everything. However, I am not one of them. First of all, as I am in college, I don’t have a lot of money. And this is OK, because most girls in college also are limited monetarily. Girls understand this, and realize that it is only fair that they should pay for their half. I should also note that I have never had a girl become insulted when I suggest that we each pay for our share of the date. On the contrary, I believe that girls appreciate that you consider them to be your equal (by paying for everything, you assume that a girl cannot provide for herself which is simply untrue). I also believe that if a first date doesn’t work out, I shouldn’t be the one to foot the entire bill.

However, I do not believe that you should stick hard and fast to this rule of splitting everything halfway. It’s always nice to surprise girls with gifts, extravagant evenings, etc. And I further believe that these events will stand out much more if your girl is used to splitting everything equally. Just think about it. If every time you take a girl you’re paying for everything, will she be as surprised when you eventually take her out somewhere nice? She won’t, because she’ll automatically assume that you’ll be picking up the bill anyway.

Now, I just want to take a second to let you know that I’m not blaming women for this at all. In fact, I believe that this situation applies to men as well. For instance, I have dated wealthy women, and, with them paying for everything, I eventually just came to expect that they would take me to nice places. It became common and I wasn’t as impressed with our dates anymore (this was before I came to my present conclusion on splitting the date’s costs equally). I believe that it is human nature to become, over time, less excited about common events. And in my case, extravagant dates became common and I began to appreciate them less.

With this knowledge, you should be free to enjoy a first date that will both be easy on your checkbook as well as provide a solid foundation from which a relationship can blossom.